On this page I don't want to merely encourage you to get Self-Care, I want to inspire you and give you tools to be able to gain REAL Self-Care for yourself.
Self-Care is the key to not only thriving but long-term surviving as well! I'm learning that REAL self-care is one of the main lessons I need to accept and learn in my journey towards healing #afteraces.
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Using the LANGUAGE OF LISTENING® second premise of ➡ [People] "behave according to who they believe they are", we can start to look at who we believe we are and how that effects the choices we make. Because Good Choices are necessary for Good Self-Care. Have you heard of the 99 to 1 rule? Where many of us will do something "right" 99 times but the 1 time we do it "wrong" is the proof we use to create our beliefs about ourselves?? I know this is true for me... I don't generally register when I do things well. It just should happen that way. But when I screw up just once, well that's proof of my overall failure. Not perfect, not good enough. It benefits us greatly when we take the time to celebrate our wins and use that to create our beliefs about ourselves.
How To:
To do this we use those LIKE phrases and STRENGTH's I've talked about in other posts.
Big wins ➡ "You got the job and you are so proud of yourself! You love how this feels!" Little wins ➡ "You got a delicious supper made and the kids are in bed on time! That shows you're organized AND a good cook. You like being those things."
Recap
We can use LANGUAGE OF LISTENING® to strengthen our beliefs about ourselves and celebrate our wins. A vision of ourselves based on our STRENGTH's helps us to make best choices when it comes to our actions. Our actions will be healthier and more beneficial. That's Real Self-Care.
Real Self-Care is very different from the Self-Care we hear talk about most of the time. I've got a 6 Step Course on Empowerment and Boundaries which leads you through SIMPLE yet RIDICULOUSLY EFFECTIVE Language of Listening® tools to get you to a place of Real Self Care.
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